When Friendship Offends
Some people are like vaporless clouds – they leave you dry.
I don’t want their vaporless clouds in conversation, much less their gloomy clouds.
Yes, some people are selfish or careless in their content of conversation.
Some people can’t stand their gloom, so they offload it on you.
Some are generous they share it with you.
When I take the care to dismiss upsetting things
Whoever said I want to take on someone else’s?
Do I have a sign behind me that says “share your bad stuff, all the more the better?”
Does it say “Free counselling here” OR “Practicing to be a counsellor?”
Did you not notice the frown on my brow or the faraway look in my eyes
When I wanted to escape but was too polite?
Yes you have done for me a disservice again and again
That is not my understanding of a True Friend.
So you must hear this message, my ears I’ll not lend
Only to be brought down again and again
by this friend and that friend when they wish to offend.
I’d rather be a happy hermit that would be wise
And keep my thoughts healthy, that is no lie.
What would it take for my friendship again?
Speak of some happy things and hardships fling.
The more the better and make my heart sing.
If not I must now go my way to better days
When it comes to my hearing, only kindness pays.
Don’t think this is mean; I’ve had more than my share
From this one and that one who don’t practice care.
I’m placing my order for better in life
I’m not a conduit for discontents and strife.
How long did you think such a friendship would last?
If you’re now wiser OK if not I will pass.
I am not guilty, I have to refrain
Some friendships you see have caused me pain.
Janet Vargas ©
A Word Of Advice:
Some people just don’t know when you’ve had enough.
Sometimes they do but they offend anyway.
Also, you should know, some people have friends they share good times with
and one friend they keep in reserve for all the serious stuff.
You should not be such a person - do not play that part for anyone.
The Lord does not expect that of you!
I've had friends who confide in me about family and friends imposing on them
and then turn around and do the same with me.
Now I have to refrain from this kind of thing altogether.
Life is too short, it really is. I wish you all well -
those with upsetting circumstances AND those who are not Counsellors.
Janet Vargas ©